How often do you find yourself comparing your life, looks and likes to someone else’s? I spend a lot of time observing others as well as myself. I’ve always found it very interesting how women look at each other. Often times its women who look similar; be it race, style or even hair color. Often times I can feel a persons reaction. I’ve felt everything from someone feeling down because they don’t feel as pretty as the other person, the thought that the other person looks like they have their life all figured out, the feeling of loneliness when they watch a loving couple or the feeling that someone looks younger or more stylish. Another big pot of comparison is in the world of social media and the internet. How many times have you heard yourself or someone else say, “I wish I got more likes and comments or I wish I had as many followers as they do or her life looks so amazing… why can’t I live that way?”
Here’s a thought. What would it feel like if you didn’t compare yourself and your life to someone’s possible facade? What we must realize is often times people show you what they want you to see. And like mama always said, “not every thing that shines is gold.” Many people are consciously “showing” how amazing things are or how wonderful their business is going or happy their marriage is. Can we get real for just a moment?
For all you know that lovey dovey couple that you are envying just had a HUGE fight for the 4th time this week and decided to try to turn the mood around before they lose each other.
For all you know that Instagram or Facebook person that has a million and one followers and likes could have purchased them.
For all you know that girl who’s body you are drooling over may has had plastic surgery or works out 5 hours a day or may live an overly regimented life without enjoyment because she’s more wrapped up in how she looks instead of happiness.
For all you know that person with the amazing website may have a best friend or brother that does design for a living.
Now don’t get me wrong. There are tons of people who have put in amazing work, really do have wonderful lives, really are deep in love, really have organically grown their tribe or really worked their tooshes off to get to where they are today. All I’m suggesting is not comparing your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 36. Don’t compare your real life to someone else’s controlled internet content. Don’t compare yourself to anyone’s anything other than the person you were yesterday. Find a reflection of yourself and learn how to improve that reflection every single day. Improve yourself for you, the way you see fit. Learn to admire and acknowledge other people’s happiness, beauty or achievements without questioning your own. Realize that your journey is yours and you are exactly where you are meant to be. Step into your day knowing that
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
YOU ARE WHOLE
YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH
Every single day you are moving toward your dreams and aspiration. Every single day you are the best you.
Sending my love,